RIP was initially developed to help with anxiety, but it can be applied to any episodic distressing emotional state or unhelpful behavior. It can be applied to feeling angry, lonely, embarrassed, sad/depressed, uncertain or hurt..any unpleasant emotion as long as that feeling comes and goes rather than is constant. It can also be applied to bad habits: overeating, yelling at my kids, overuse of social media, excessive drinking or drug use, procrastination, too much screen time, and so on.
When these emotions and behaviors occur periodically rather than constantly, it is possible to identify the three phases of RIP: after the episode, during the episode, before the next episode. We recognize during these episodes, the front of our brain, which is responsible for higher-ordered thinking, including logic, reason and problem-solving, is “off line,” which means we are not going to expect to make rational decisions during these episodes. And what is great is the strategies of RIP do not require us to do so. In the Recovery and Prevention phases, when higher-ordered thinking is available to us, we can use the front of our brain to not only to decrease the frequency of the episodes, but to prepare ourselves to end the episodes as quickly as possible when they do occur.
Think about how many people make a New Year’s resolution only to break it within a few months. Some people avoid making any resolutions, goals or plans to avoid being disappointed if the commitments are broken. Some would like to become a better version of themselves, but fear the determination and follow through that is required. If this sounds familiar, for you or someone you know, I’d like to suggest a new New Year’s resolution: Gentle Redirection.
For many of my clients, “The most wonderful time of the year” is anything but wonderful. All around us we see the bright colors of Christmas trees, menorahs, gift wrap and decorations. The reds, greens and whites help put is in the holiday mood. However, painful memories of childhood celebrations featuring family conflict, abuse or want; notable absences due to death of a loved one, divorce or other misfortune; or simply the stress of meeting unreasonable expectations of the Season, can all color the Holidays blue.
Video – Body language affects how others see us, but it may also change how we see ourselves. Social psychologist Amy Cuddy shows how “power posing” — standing in a posture of confidence, even when we don’t feel confident — can affect testosterone and cortisol levels in the brain, and might even have an impact on our chances for success.